The writer of this article should be ashamed of herself. It's bad enough that the tone of the email was "victim blaming" but to write lies is reprehensible. Stalking is a serious matter and this blogger should have known better and so should her managing editor.
Extremely disappointed in CL.
Doria, based on the findings from the officers report (that it does not match this story above), I would look into taking this person who wrote it to court for slander/libel. There is no factual basis that she wrote this on, it appears. Seems like a bit of a hack job. She probably should have minded her own business or perhaps thought for a minute what it would feel like if your situation where, God forbid, true.
I'm amazed that Keating didn't bother to talk to the musician for this story. Instead, she made up new "facts" that aren't in the report and wrote a gossipy, blind item that not only discounts the victim here but also deliberately tries to make her look bad (which is libel, by the way). Even Keating's editor says that Keating didn't "have the report she saw right."
I hope the officer who wrote the report gets on Keating's editor to set the story straight. I hope that Creative Loafing Atlanta prints a correction (it's probably too much to hope that they do away with the entire poorly-written Blotter). And, Doria, I hope that this situation gets better for you -- I'm so sorry you're now dealing with harassment from a crappy reporter as well as a mentally unstable fan.
Doria, that is terrible and I'm sure it's terrifying. Unfortunately, this system is set up to be reactionary only after it is too late. You can report it, be vocal about it and demand to be protected, but nothing will be done until you or someone else is physically harmed. The sad part is a simple investigation early on could prevent that from happening. Keep standing up for yourself.
i'll pass on taking the bait this time but will just say that if the situation is as you describe it and someone is actually stalking you, i hope that they stop, either due to police involvement or on their own.
and if the situation is as the police report describes it, then maybe its best to let it go now.
either way, good luck to you. have a blessed day.
Doria girl, Do not even respond to anyone who is judging you by this lame "account" of the happenings! They seem to be throwing a little too much judgement around. Seriously, it's not worth it! We who know you, know that you are one of the most sincere, honest, and down to earth people you could ever come across! Please.....do not feed the....yeah, you get it girl! Stay safe down there!
If all the things you are saying were true, Wesley, I would have posted publicly about this two weeks ago when it actually happened and every day since then.
Instead, I only told the authorities and the people closest to me for safety reasons.
I not only did the responsible thing, I did it as privately as humanly possible.
If I wanted the attention you say I'm seeking, why didn't I just post about it on every possible public forum I'm attached to back then? That would have been nearly 10 outlets I could have "exploited", by the way.
Why not mention it at my show on Saturday in front of an audience? Better yet, why not just cancel the show, close my store and sit in the safety of my home behind my computer and talk about how I feared for my life on all of those social networks?
Why not "milk it" while it was fresh?
Where has the "attention-seeking-persecution-complex-diva" in me been for nearly two weeks...or the last five months for that matter?
Why would I (or anyone) wait until I had to defend myself against it as opposed to launching an offensive attack?
So many questions...
Please, enlighten me.
i'm just glad that you could use FB and CL to get more attention from this "situation".
let's not forget that you CHOSE to be connected with this article by identifying yourself as the person the initial post was about, and then posted a link to your FB page, where you posted a link to this article, so let's not pretend this is about anything other than attention.
as for the "stalking" charges , i think i'll believe the police report that is so ridiculous that it made the blotter, rather than some long, equally ridiculous story from an attention seeking diva, thanks.
but seriously, good luck getting help with your issues. maybe you can write a song about how CL and the blotter are out to get you?
To discount a victim and their experience is unsettling. It seems this page is the one looking for PR.
"The woman said she's never met this fan, but the same fan sent her a package in the mail once before and she returned it. The woman says she's asked the fan not to contact her. The woman contacted police because she wanted the incident documented. According to the police report, the anonymous fan letter did not contain any threatening language. In fact, she chose not to tell police a single word of text from the letter and did not provide any other identifying information, such as a description of the handwriting. Cops dutifully filed a report — about a blank letter from an unknown fan."
judging from the police report, and your response to it, along with your posts here, you may want to seek professional help for your persecution issues. you may need medication if you think people are out to get you.
good luck to you, it can't be easy being you.
Somehow I am not entirely convinced the sicko is not the writer of this blog. I mean why would you twist the truth about something so serious and painful to so many people, then go on to embellish your so called 'factual' article with a comical tone and misinformation... In your titling and handling of something so sensitive Ms Keating you yourself come off as the abuser here and not a little bit sick!
I try not to feed trolls but...
WWW, you think because I posted my FB page I'm trying to get PR from this?
If you think this is funny, good for you and your prepubescent sense of humor but I can assure you it's not funny to me and hasn't been for a while.
To anyone else who thinks that (meaning the person who liked WWW's post):
I posted the link to my music FB page because I'm taking this incident and Lauren's post to my public page as opposed to the personal page I had to use to post with on here.
And, trust me, I don't want to and haven't wanted to.
This happened on Thanksgiving day and, since then, I've only told a few close friends, my employees and the two adjacent businesses about it because I didn't want to feed the ego of the person who did this by publicly acknowledging them. I also wanted the people I'm responsible for and around every day to know what was happening in case this person was going to take this further.
I actually looked into hiring security for my show on Saturday but I couldn't afford it.
But, since another business owner came into my store yesterday and identified me from the description and the illustration (extra thanks for that, CL btw) in this blurb, I figured I should say something to clear my name and to clarify my side of the story.
That's actually how I found out about it. That was an awesome moment for me.
I figured if one person deduced that it was me, others would too and, since Lauren's color commentary doesn't paint me in a very good light, it was important to make sure people knew the facts before something happened to me since the only two pieces of public record were the (possibly) erroneous police report and Lauren's (possible) interpretation of that report.
It always amazes me how people minimize this kind of stuff (especially law enforcement) until something more serious happens. But, that *is* the law. Nothing can be legally done until someone is physically hurt or killed. You know this, right? And, you know that I was told that I'd have to have this stranger's date of birth in order to get a protective order, right?
The violence you see on the news (e.g. school shootings, stalker killings, domestic violence killings, et al) doesn't happen in a vacuum and overnight. It happens and starts with "micro-aggressions" like the ones I've been experiencing for the last 5 months. This note was the last straw. The person talked about dying. It wasn't a "fan" letter. It was unsettling to say the least. Her online "footprint" is also unsettling.This person is not well by anyone's standards.
It also always amazes me how the victims are somehow thought to be complicit if they didn't do everything in their power to stop someone who is committing those micro-aggressions--even though they return packages, try to have minimal contact with the person, call 911, supply ample evidence and get a case file.
That's all the power you have at this level.
Even then, apparently, it's not enough.
You are damned if you do and damned if you don't.
Meaning, if I hadn't called the police and gotten a case number and this person came into my store or into one of my shows with a gun and injured and/or killed innocent bystanders, what would that story look like when the details came out?
Something like this:
"She had been stalked by the person for 5 months but did nothing and now people are dead."
That might sound improbable to you but people are crazy and attention starved. We know it. We're all adults, right? Well, most of us anyway... We all watch the news, right? Why take a chance? Why ever gamble and *hope* that it "isn't one of those times" because "you never think it's going to be you"?
The next time you're wondering why women don't get help until it's too late and are judging them, remember this is why: Women don't seek help because we get ridiculed, we're misrepresented, our actions are underrepresented and our reactions are dismissed as histrionic until, again, we're not able to say anything at all--in our defense or otherwise.
So, by all means, have a laugh (at my expense) and hope (for my sake) that this doesn't escalate now that I've had to publicly acknowledge this person and any other person who might feel "inspired" by it.
I'll leave you with another website:
Check out the statistics.
Have a good belly laugh over those...
doria, PLEASE keep us posted on this situation. such a travesty all the way around. i'm glad you were able to get some FB PR out of this at least. as a matter of fact, i would love to collaborate with you sometime. where can i send my material? what's your email address? should i just come by your store?
as for the 2nd story, if the former postal worker truly said, "I'm going to go postal on this carrier" because he considered his postman unfit to perform his daily tasks, then he should win some sort of award for meta-craziness.
Hi this is Doria Roberts, the person who received the letter from a stalker.
First, the letter was signed. Not sure where you got that it wasn't. This person has also sent unsolicited snail mail and e-mails so I actually do know who it is by name.
Second, the officer who came to the store said they could be using a false name and address after I showed a picture of the package I sent back but it's unlikely they are in my opinion.
Third, I not only printed out a picture of that returned package, I gave them a copy of the letter and all e-mails I'd gotten as well so also not sure how you got this: "In fact, she chose not to tell police a single word of text from the letter and did not provide any other identifying information, such as a description of the handwriting."
Um, nope. So very, very just...wrong.
Also, I read the letter over the phone to the Zone 6 officer on duty who is the one who told me to call 911 back and get an officer sent out. He said it sounded threatening to him and enough to warrant getting a case number.
This person has also come into the store and stole my CD from the display we have set up but we didn't know it was her until we finally found her picture on line.
I also never told the person to stop contacting me. Never said that to the cop. What I said is that I told her not to send unsolicited song material, which she had in hopes of "collaborating".
The cop actually has the e-mail I sent to her.
But, thanks so much for "reporting" this because if this is how he wrote up my case file I will be following up.
If it's *not* the way he reported it and it's the way you chose to report, then...really?
I'll find out either way and "report" back on my music Facebook page. Keep an eye on it, Lauren: http://www.facebook.com/doriarobertsmusic
Because, while I can appreciate needing hits on your blog to stay relevant, I won't let this incident (that scared the crap out of me by the way) be fodder for that.
Again, I hope you were just reporting what was given you but, if you edited this in any way to make me look not credible, you'll be hearing about it...
For what it's worth, thanks for bringing the way my case reported to my attention because if this is the way it was reported it is problematic and is probably why women in the city get terrorized and killed by stalkers more often than not.
Bow-wow blues: “...give the dog”
Is that a euphemism for something else ?
I heard "Dumb and Dumber" was being filmed in ATL. Looks like some of the extras have too much time on their hands.
So people who expect a somewhat nominal amount of cash in their house to be there when they return are dumb? Makes sense...
"... pulled out a $20 bill, folded it open, and proceeded to have a conversation as if it were a phone." There's your quote of the day.
Patrons sometimes get robbed in mall parking lots, so we should definitely outlaw retail too.
Selling sex is a crime and it very well should be. The crime itself can jeopardize public safety by jeopardizing the safety of the residents of a neighborhood; jeopardizing the health of the johns and their spouses; putting the johns in danger of being robbed or worse; and most importantly continues to perpetuate a systemic pattern of abuse on the sex workers. In other words, stop being a creep, get in a grown up relationship and get some fucking morals!
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