And again: If I hadn't been identified by other people who read this blurb *and* if this blurb had been correctly reported by Lauren, I would not be here. None of us would.
Every so often someone with narcissistic personality disorder shows up on the CL message boards.
Doria, this explains you:
You aren't benefiting from album sales. You benefit from attention.
Anyone remember Zanna Don't? That psychopath who kept posting. Doria and her could be besties.
I am sad to see a woman being threatened and harrased by a stalker made into entertainment. Ms. Roberts is the victim here. Even if she was upset and confused, she deserves respect and protection from the law enforcement authorities.
Violence against women is not a subject for entertainment. We should be working to stop this problem at it's source, not discouraging wmen from reporting it. Tooo many lives have already been lost.
To the people who, despite my every effort to explain this, think that I'm benefiting somehow:
What *exactly* do you think I'm getting out of this? I'm curious.
CD sales? Do you think after 20 years as an indie artist (and at the age of 42) I'm sitting here rubbing my hands together thinking, "Oh yeah, this is my big break! My iTunes sales are gonna go through the roof! Merry Christmas to me and Beyonce!"
Or, do you think people are buying "sympathy sandwiches" at my shop? Even if they were, do you know what the margins are in the food industry?
Do you think it's for general sympathy? Well, I've been dealing with the internet as a public person for a long time and I can tell you for every 10 sympathetic people there are 2-3 trolls just waiting to anonymously tell you what a sh*t of a human being you are. I mean, approximately. I don't have hard data for that.
So, if I open myself up to garner sympathy, I already know what else I open myself up to because, well, I'm an adult. But, wait, you know this...so.
You can't see me but I'm laughing at the thought of all of this.
Like, laughing out loud.
Here's the thing: I'm a relatively popular working class independent musician and activist who owns a relatively popular small business with her wife in East Atlanta and we are doing okay for ourselves, you know? It's cool.
The only thing we exploit is ourselves.
We've both had jobs since we were kids.
We work hard.
We show up every single day.
We do our job.
We go home and watch TV and hang with our dogs.
But, when you are a working class *anything* and you don't have trust funds, rich uncles or investors, your reputation is your social currency so we protect it.
This is an okay thing to do, I'm entitled to that and is fairly simple and straightforward stuff so I'm not sure where the disconnect is happening for you.
Also, this: Google is your friend.
Literally, half of my entire life is on line. Go for it. You will see nothing on any of my multiple social media pages about this until Tuesday. You will also find that this is pretty much how I handle things. Meaning, I don't let people crap on me when I don't deserve it, I'm action oriented and when I'm wrong I say so.
Again, fairly simple and straightforward stuff.
So, I will say this one last time as simply as possible unless, of course, you find it necessary to find (imo) unmitigated fault with it again and make anonymous comments:
If I hadn't been identified by other people who read this blurb *and* if this blurb had been correctly reported by Lauren, I would not be here. None of us would.
i'm still waiting to hear from the 30-year-old norcross man with a blotchy, red face to find out if his police report was reported to his liking.
if that guy thinks his psychotic break down/ongoing mental illness doesn't make him look crazy and attention-starved enough, i hope he knows to identify himself by posting multiple times on the CL website so he can engender some additional sympathy and attention.
and don't forget to write about it (a lot!) on FB!
Wow. What could be worse than being harassed by a stalker? Perhaps adding to the victim's distress by having the crime "reported" on inaccurately, with a crude caricature to accompany the piece, followed by blame-the-victim trolls in the comments section. And when you respond as the strong, intelligent, articulate woman you are, and try to set the record straight, you are criticized for that as well.
Creative Loafing, it is extremely disturbing that you published this at all. Anyone who is familiar with Doria Roberts and the East Atlanta business district would know to whom you refer.
And to those who would ridicule Ms. Roberts for 1) going to the police when she is being harassed; and 2) speaking out in a pointed and articulate way when a wildly inaccurate report appears in the local rag -- well, I hope you all never have to experience the distress and anxiety of being stalked. Most of you can't even hold a candle to Ms. Roberts' talent, intelligence, and strength of character. I assume your negative comments toward her stem from your own fears and inadequacies, but that's something you should deal with without projecting it onto a stalking victim. Shame on you.
Update: I had my report read to me over the phone and the report does not match Lauren's account of what happened.
The officer noted the person's full name which was on the signed letter. The only way the officer could know this is if he actually saw the letter, which means I provided a "writing sample", which means I showed him the letter that I called about and aided in the investigation...which makes sense.
He did use the word "anonymous" but in the next sentence used the person's name so he may not know that anonymous is not interchangeable with "someone you don't know". I do not know this person. She is not a friend or an acquaintance. She is a fan in the sense that she has interacted on my social media fan networks and, apparently, has come to my shows. I didn't even know what she looked like when the letter was left.
He also mentioned that the person sent me packages prior to this and that there was an address.
The officer *is* somehow convinced and mentioned to me and in the report that this person may be using an alias even though the name she signed the letter with matches the name on the packages and corresponds with the e-mail addresses she uses. And, again, he has copies of all of this so I'm not sure why he's fixated on that possibility. Perhaps he's not used to seeing women stalking other women and thinks it's a man? I don't know.
Anyway, Lauren (the writer), is out of town until next week and I'm speaking with the editors who have also obtained the police report. I'm also contacting the illustrator to see why he chose to use a guitar since I play guitar but the report made no mention of any instrument I play. I'm just curious how that decision came about.
Also, before anyone else chimes in with opinions about why I'm here on CLs site:
Two people identified me from the facts that Lauren chose to get right. I am indeed a musician who owns a business in East Atlanta Village. Possibly the only one so it's not a stretch.
I originally found out about this blog from another business owner in the Village who came in on Tuesday, December 17 and asked if I was alright because she saw my story in Creative Loafing. I was humiliated when I read it. I figured if two people could figure it out, others could and may already have so I came here to clear up my name and state what actually happened.
Otherwise, I have not mentioned this on social media in the two weeks since it happened on Thanksgiving day because I did not want to give the person who did this any attention and didn't want to risk escalating the situation since I have no idea what this person is capable of, what their intentions are and we also know she's been *inside* the store at least once where she stole a CD from the shelf. Also, she knows (as everyone else knows) where I am every day and for how long. We only know it was her now because we found a picture of her on line from a Facebook account she was using (under her real name) but appears to not have used since November 2012. We are not including this in the report because we can't prove it was her since we have no video footage.
Thank you to those of you who came here to show support from my FB/Twitter pages. I really appreciate it...
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