First the Fat Boys break up...now this!
First, it was "Kitchen Witch". Well, at least I still had Karma Cleanser.
Now it's Karma Cleanser.
I feel like I just got punked by K.C. After discovering your column a couple of years back, it became my weekly must read indulgence. Now that I'm hooked, you ride off into the sunset.K.C... I don't have the mind presence to hunt you down on the internet..thanks for the offer though. So now you leave... K.C. Good luck to you. Even though it seems like bad karma for me.
I loved reading the Karma Cleanser! Thank you for the stories, the 'kind of' advice, and entertainment. I wish you well.
I think Karma Cleanser's response is inadequate and off the mark. This individual clearly embraced an adult relationship, turning a potential one night stand into a caring, supportive companionship. I think you got too adult, too quickly. You went from the playful fling to the serious partnership in merely six weeks! Don't forget about that lovely stage inbetween called dating. Opening your house to him and his mother was entirely too generous, and your wallet and will are bearing the consequences. I would wait until he's healthy to say you loved getting to know his mother and you enjoyed nursing him, and hope to continue those things in the future. But living together was a big step to take early on and your relationship will flourish all the more beautifully if you can continue to grow separately along side one another, instead of on top of one another. And tell him your excited about helping him find another place to live, another place for you two to share sex and possibly love. If he's legitimately into you, he'll respect your perspective. If's he's a manipulative greencard seeking jerk, he'll leave and you will have stood up for yourself. Making you all the more ready for the adult relationship you deserve.
Are you sure he is really joking about getting married so he can become a citizen?
Maybe I move a little slower, but even though you care for him, if he's living with you and you can't really tell him you love him, I think there is a much larger issue at hand. Don't you?
Tell him, "Nayh Trick Nayh--Get Out of my FACE." that always works for me.
no honestly sit him down and let him know how you feel. Just make sure your actions speak as loudly as your words.
Change of Heart----don't let people like Michelle run you out of groups or activities you enjoy! After some heart wrenching friendship breakups a few years ago I skipped activities or events where I might have run into someone. In doing so I isolated myself from others I enjoyed spending time with and activities that were integral to my life. Avoiding situations is not the way to go. If I have any regrets it is letting de-friending (and those who were especially central to the cause of the loss of friends) keep me away from parts of my life. Sure, get out and try other new groups or activities---being sort of shy I know that is easier said than done. I'd say go to the book club and treat this Michelle girl like that classmate who was kind of annoying and make friends with others. Maybe they'll invite you along to some other thing and it could be a great new adventure.
If only I didn't have to learn that the hard way...
Kids need their asses kicked in every generation. We have become this limpy -assed society that treats our jackass kids like precious little angels who must be allowed to explore their world and blah blah blah. Kick her ass and tell her to get a job to pay for college.
"Marxist patriarch" ----his father sounds nothing at all like Marx or Marxism or anything of the like. Perhaps Franco would be a better analogy.
I'll have to disagree here with KC.
No 12-year-old needs to be listening to music like that at home, nor should they be blasting it at concussion-level volume. This doesn't mean that dad needs to become like Grandpa Lenin, but rather has a chance to lay some workable rules that give some freedom.
One does not have to constantly filter and control what their children hear 24 hours a day, so why not try instituting simple rules of decency? How about "No music of questionable or sexual nature shall be played in this house. However, what you listen to when you are not at home is out of my control." If she complains, tell her that when she has her own house, she can play whatever she wishes. Until that time, she'll learn to deal with it.
Another one can be "Play your music at a respectable volume, or I take your stereo." Lil' Princess has to learn that just because she likes listening to her music loud enough to perforate eardrums, other people do not. She'll also have to learn that there are laws called "Noise Ordinances". Neighbors can, and frequently do, call the police to report people who play their music at disruptive levels. This will only save her some heartache in the future, when she learns that not everyone across the street wants to jam out with her.
"Green Face" must work for a very lenient and progressive company, if it allows their employees to use company email accounts for such personal use.
There has to be boundaries, not only in relationships but also in breakups too. Something tells us that your ex-beau has a different idea of your current situation than you do.
i was on a LONG flight back to atlanta and i was shocked at the behavior of children (maybe it is really the behavior of their parents) on the flight. children who aren't taught manners and the like are annoying to say the least. i cannot stand parents who slack off and allow children to develop such bad habits!
i REALLY would love to see some sort of separation on flights for families and those without children. maybe it would provide a safer area for kids to move about while preventing the rest of us from having to deal with poor parenting skills.
I actually agree with the woman in the $250 shoes. I'd be mad if some kid got sick on mine, and I shop primarily at Payless.
Also, I don't think KC is being "pissy". There are positive messages from the universe everywhere you look, but trying to use a line from a movie in a retaliatory complaint for a question you misinterpreted only dilutes and invalidates the underlining moral. Sometimes, even Karma can have a sarcastic sense of humor.
Karma Cleanser must be having a pissy week too. Your last line in the reply to your 2nd letter writer drips more of sarcasm than humor. Remember KC , we your loyal readers are looking for respectful and positive answers. Keep your best Cruella Deville away from the keybord. Save it for when you go out on weekends dressed accordingly.
In response to 'Disappointed in Charlotte': I am the mother of three children, but I do not share your view. The writer of "Scarred in Coach" has stated she does not want children, and there is nothing wrong with that. Not everyone has that maternal instinct and that's ok. And I do not think her priorities are screwed up because she pays $250 for a pair of shoes. She is absolutely entitled to do that. Now, if she had kids, wasn't supporting them the way she should, and still had the $250 pair of shoes I might agree with you that her priorities are screwed up. However, just because someone chose a different life than yourself does not mean they're the most terrible person on earth. And quite frankly, I'd have been pissed if I stepped in the puke in my $40 pair of shoes. And btw, who is the self-absorbed bitch in this one?
did SJ hook up with the brother before Claire Danes hooked up with the boy who brought SJ home? i thought she just woke up in his bed but nothing happened and then Claire Danes and the boy did first? maybe i'll just have to watch it again...
The Family Stone was a great movie!
There is not a standard tip. I personally do not work in the service industry. I did when i was still in school. If you dont bring me good service: NO TIP. If you give me the wrong change.. THANK YOU! If you get fired for being short: Not my problem. If you go hungry because you cant count change: NATURAL SELECTION!
First, I would just like to point out that there are 2 viewpoints to every relationship. And as the other "side" of Not Really My Type's relationship "issue", I want to say that he left out alot. Sure, he says he's not ready for a relationship and is used to being alone, but does he ACT that way? No, not always. I did notice tho, how he left out the part about him "accidentally" saying he loves me in his sleep. Or how he goes out of his way to try to bond with my kids, or tells me that it isn't just about sex, or just many things in general that he does that I don't typically associate with a sex only relationship. Which is fine, since he is wrong about me falling in love with him. I admit, I like him alot..actually that may be more past tense now that I know him better and have come to realize that he seems to like to play with my emotions, then flip the entire thing around to me "not listening to him". Oh well..life goes on. Oh and jen1991, I am NOT making myself easily available, thank you.
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