I am a gender chameleon, but I am far more than clothes and cosmetics. I like to think I am actually a well-rounded and cultured…
crossdresser, photographer, t-girl, writer
Um, yeah. Sounds like he might have been told to quit drooling when he takes a (too long) look.
Dude: just say, "hey you look nice" and leave it at that. Most of us learn that in high school.
Most women like being attractive, sure. But then again, like any human being, most of them want to be liked for being WHO they are, not WHAT they are. Excessive compliments show women that 1) you're interested in only one thing and 2) that you are just an object to them.
Mike: please be aware that to many transgendered persons, the term "tranny" has the same disrespectful discordance as the N-word does with African Americans. I know, I know, political correctness, a rose is a rose, and all that, but it really does have some very negative connotations to quite a number of us.
PC aside, its probably a higher form of social grace to just use the normal denotata you would use with a G-Girl when describing a transgendered woman: woman, her, she, etc. After all, as you say, a transgendered woman has done much to present herself as fully female, and referring to her as one is a sign of respect.
Finally, be aware that t-girls are very wary of "tranny chasers" (oh, THAT word again!) or men who have a fetish for them. A chaser is almost always one who cares little about the person that they seek relations with and to many transgendered women, that is very demeaning. As a rule, we tend to avoid tranny chasers and view them with great disdain.
If you want to date a transgendered person, strike the word transgendered and just treat them like a person. Period. Believe it or not, there is a living breathing person beneath the gender that has interests, passions and desires, and those are the things that they care the most about...just like any of us.
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