Thank you for writing this. I am experiencing disinheritance. But, I am a woman and I am being disinherited by my mother who died over 2 years ago. I am fighting my brother in court over it. I have yet to win and I don't know if I will, but after a lifetime of abuse I've decided to go down shooting.
It is true, that disinheritance does not just affect the disinherited. It destroys any semblance of family you might have had with your sibling (s), and also your children and their children. It is really the ultimate betrayal, a parent putting a a curse and an insult that cannot be fixed, permanently on whatever is your family. Whether that family was held together by bridge cables or spider's web string, it doesn't matter. Disinheritance has the power to destroy even the strongest bonds. I hope that some parent reading this, who may be considering this, will think again. After you die, circumstances that did not exist before your death will occur. You do not know what they will be. And you will not be able to do anything about it. You will only leave a legacy of hatred that will continue for generations.
No matter how much you hated your disinherited child, consider this: you could be wrong. YOU could actually be the wrong one. Perhaps that child reflects something in you that you cannot abide. Maybe its really not them, maybe its you.
I often wonder about my mother, who is on the other side of this life, what she thinks now. She was full of blindness and prejudices. Is she aware of them now? Think what it would be like, to realize you were actually wrong, and there is nothing you can do about it ever, and the repercussions will go on for generations. That is what you will leave behind you if you despise your own child, that you brought into this world.
I will never visit my mother's grave. Ever.
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