I'm tempted to send this article to dan savage, the guy who writes the sex advice column called savage love. There are way more than 2 to 9 percent open relationships... Then again that is a thirty year old statistic. I think the reason we don't hear more stories from people in healthy open relationships is because they don't want to deal with the judgemental backlash from their friends, family, or peers. Our biggest problem in this society is bashing people for not fitting inside the tight nit vanilla box of normality. What does normal mean anyway? I say whatever keeps your relationship happy and fulfilled is good as long as everyone involved is consensual.
I grew up in a pretty relaxed religious atmosphere. My dad and brother were Christian, my mom wasn't really anything. Though my dad was not religiously strict, growing up with Christianity had a profoundly negative impact on both me and my brother. I rebeled and started have drunk sex at parties when I was 14, while my brother ended up on the opposite end of the spectrum saving his virginity for "the one." (who is a mytical creature and does not exsist, there are hundres of people that you are potentially compatible with, not just one!).
I do believe, however, that this is partially to blame on our inherit personalities as well as religion. We both grew up, realized what bullshit religion is, and are now in happy relationships. There are people out there that have grown up in homes with two perfectly sexual parents who have ended up with sexual dysfunction (I read a book about this girl who grew up with hippie parents that never took a shower without eachother, and she couldn't get an orgams untill she was 26!!). So I think some people, no matter how they grow up, have a harder time with their sexuality than others.
That being said, the part where religion gets dangerous is where it prevents people from using birth control, and where it tells you homosexuality is unnatural (though scientific evidence proves other wise. Did you know there are over 400 species that engage in homosexual relationships? Did you know that all females are arroused by any sexual image, weather its gay or strait? Even if they don't admit it, a study done found that their brians and sexual organs began to flush when watching sexual images of any kind! Meaning that all women are inheritly bisexual, some just supress it more than others)
Now we have teens who are having unprotected anal sex because they belive it "preserves" their virginity. And guess what happens? They get herpes. Or AIDS, or a bacterial infection, or knocked up... And this is a HUGE problem in America. I blame THAT on religion. And of course, all the gay bashing. Who the hell whould choose to be gay knowing the type of punishment it would bring them from society? No one!
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