And again: If I hadn't been identified by other people who read this blurb *and* if this blurb had been correctly reported by Lauren, I would not be here. None of us would.
Every so often someone with narcissistic personality disorder shows up on the CL message boards.
Doria, this explains you:
You aren't benefiting from album sales. You benefit from attention.
Anyone remember Zanna Don't? That psychopath who kept posting. Doria and her could be besties.
I am sad to see a woman being threatened and harrased by a stalker made into entertainment. Ms. Roberts is the victim here. Even if she was upset and confused, she deserves respect and protection from the law enforcement authorities.
Violence against women is not a subject for entertainment. We should be working to stop this problem at it's source, not discouraging wmen from reporting it. Tooo many lives have already been lost.
To the people who, despite my every effort to explain this, think that I'm benefiting somehow:
What *exactly* do you think I'm getting out of this? I'm curious.
CD sales? Do you think after 20 years as an indie artist (and at the age of 42) I'm sitting here rubbing my hands together thinking, "Oh yeah, this is my big break! My iTunes sales are gonna go through the roof! Merry Christmas to me and Beyonce!"
Or, do you think people are buying "sympathy sandwiches" at my shop? Even if they were, do you know what the margins are in the food industry?
Do you think it's for general sympathy? Well, I've been dealing with the internet as a public person for a long time and I can tell you for every 10 sympathetic people there are 2-3 trolls just waiting to anonymously tell you what a sh*t of a human being you are. I mean, approximately. I don't have hard data for that.
So, if I open myself up to garner sympathy, I already know what else I open myself up to because, well, I'm an adult. But, wait, you know this...so.
You can't see me but I'm laughing at the thought of all of this.
Like, laughing out loud.
Here's the thing: I'm a relatively popular working class independent musician and activist who owns a relatively popular small business with her wife in East Atlanta and we are doing okay for ourselves, you know? It's cool.
The only thing we exploit is ourselves.
We've both had jobs since we were kids.
We work hard.
We show up every single day.
We do our job.
We go home and watch TV and hang with our dogs.
But, when you are a working class *anything* and you don't have trust funds, rich uncles or investors, your reputation is your social currency so we protect it.
This is an okay thing to do, I'm entitled to that and is fairly simple and straightforward stuff so I'm not sure where the disconnect is happening for you.
Also, this: Google is your friend.
Literally, half of my entire life is on line. Go for it. You will see nothing on any of my multiple social media pages about this until Tuesday. You will also find that this is pretty much how I handle things. Meaning, I don't let people crap on me when I don't deserve it, I'm action oriented and when I'm wrong I say so.
Again, fairly simple and straightforward stuff.
So, I will say this one last time as simply as possible unless, of course, you find it necessary to find (imo) unmitigated fault with it again and make anonymous comments:
If I hadn't been identified by other people who read this blurb *and* if this blurb had been correctly reported by Lauren, I would not be here. None of us would.
i'm still waiting to hear from the 30-year-old norcross man with a blotchy, red face to find out if his police report was reported to his liking.
if that guy thinks his psychotic break down/ongoing mental illness doesn't make him look crazy and attention-starved enough, i hope he knows to identify himself by posting multiple times on the CL website so he can engender some additional sympathy and attention.
and don't forget to write about it (a lot!) on FB!
Wow. What could be worse than being harassed by a stalker? Perhaps adding to the victim's distress by having the crime "reported" on inaccurately, with a crude caricature to accompany the piece, followed by blame-the-victim trolls in the comments section. And when you respond as the strong, intelligent, articulate woman you are, and try to set the record straight, you are criticized for that as well.
Creative Loafing, it is extremely disturbing that you published this at all. Anyone who is familiar with Doria Roberts and the East Atlanta business district would know to whom you refer.
And to those who would ridicule Ms. Roberts for 1) going to the police when she is being harassed; and 2) speaking out in a pointed and articulate way when a wildly inaccurate report appears in the local rag -- well, I hope you all never have to experience the distress and anxiety of being stalked. Most of you can't even hold a candle to Ms. Roberts' talent, intelligence, and strength of character. I assume your negative comments toward her stem from your own fears and inadequacies, but that's something you should deal with without projecting it onto a stalking victim. Shame on you.
Update: I had my report read to me over the phone and the report does not match Lauren's account of what happened.
The officer noted the person's full name which was on the signed letter. The only way the officer could know this is if he actually saw the letter, which means I provided a "writing sample", which means I showed him the letter that I called about and aided in the investigation...which makes sense.
He did use the word "anonymous" but in the next sentence used the person's name so he may not know that anonymous is not interchangeable with "someone you don't know". I do not know this person. She is not a friend or an acquaintance. She is a fan in the sense that she has interacted on my social media fan networks and, apparently, has come to my shows. I didn't even know what she looked like when the letter was left.
He also mentioned that the person sent me packages prior to this and that there was an address.
The officer *is* somehow convinced and mentioned to me and in the report that this person may be using an alias even though the name she signed the letter with matches the name on the packages and corresponds with the e-mail addresses she uses. And, again, he has copies of all of this so I'm not sure why he's fixated on that possibility. Perhaps he's not used to seeing women stalking other women and thinks it's a man? I don't know.
Anyway, Lauren (the writer), is out of town until next week and I'm speaking with the editors who have also obtained the police report. I'm also contacting the illustrator to see why he chose to use a guitar since I play guitar but the report made no mention of any instrument I play. I'm just curious how that decision came about.
Also, before anyone else chimes in with opinions about why I'm here on CLs site:
Two people identified me from the facts that Lauren chose to get right. I am indeed a musician who owns a business in East Atlanta Village. Possibly the only one so it's not a stretch.
I originally found out about this blog from another business owner in the Village who came in on Tuesday, December 17 and asked if I was alright because she saw my story in Creative Loafing. I was humiliated when I read it. I figured if two people could figure it out, others could and may already have so I came here to clear up my name and state what actually happened.
Otherwise, I have not mentioned this on social media in the two weeks since it happened on Thanksgiving day because I did not want to give the person who did this any attention and didn't want to risk escalating the situation since I have no idea what this person is capable of, what their intentions are and we also know she's been *inside* the store at least once where she stole a CD from the shelf. Also, she knows (as everyone else knows) where I am every day and for how long. We only know it was her now because we found a picture of her on line from a Facebook account she was using (under her real name) but appears to not have used since November 2012. We are not including this in the report because we can't prove it was her since we have no video footage.
Thank you to those of you who came here to show support from my FB/Twitter pages. I really appreciate it...
"it's probably too much to hope that they do away with the entire poorly-written Blotter"
The Blotter is crime porn - exploitive, but irresistible.
I had to look at Doria's Facebook page. While stalking as a practice should be taken more seriously, I find it odd and somewhat unsettling that this thread, this thread here on the comments section of Creative Loafing's blotter section has already been recounted and dramatized in Doria's most recent FB post (including mention of the bully "troll"). I mean c'mon. Your name was never mentioned in the CL blotter section, which is in no way any kind of legitimate public record. Or a story. Or an article on you. Why chime in with these long, detailed responses? I genuinely hope you're not in any type of danger, but it does seem like you're using your predicament to get extra attention.
The writer of this article should be ashamed of herself. It's bad enough that the tone of the email was "victim blaming" but to write lies is reprehensible. Stalking is a serious matter and this blogger should have known better and so should her managing editor.
Extremely disappointed in CL.
Doria, based on the findings from the officers report (that it does not match this story above), I would look into taking this person who wrote it to court for slander/libel. There is no factual basis that she wrote this on, it appears. Seems like a bit of a hack job. She probably should have minded her own business or perhaps thought for a minute what it would feel like if your situation where, God forbid, true.
I'm amazed that Keating didn't bother to talk to the musician for this story. Instead, she made up new "facts" that aren't in the report and wrote a gossipy, blind item that not only discounts the victim here but also deliberately tries to make her look bad (which is libel, by the way). Even Keating's editor says that Keating didn't "have the report she saw right."
I hope the officer who wrote the report gets on Keating's editor to set the story straight. I hope that Creative Loafing Atlanta prints a correction (it's probably too much to hope that they do away with the entire poorly-written Blotter). And, Doria, I hope that this situation gets better for you -- I'm so sorry you're now dealing with harassment from a crappy reporter as well as a mentally unstable fan.
Doria, that is terrible and I'm sure it's terrifying. Unfortunately, this system is set up to be reactionary only after it is too late. You can report it, be vocal about it and demand to be protected, but nothing will be done until you or someone else is physically harmed. The sad part is a simple investigation early on could prevent that from happening. Keep standing up for yourself.
i'll pass on taking the bait this time but will just say that if the situation is as you describe it and someone is actually stalking you, i hope that they stop, either due to police involvement or on their own.
and if the situation is as the police report describes it, then maybe its best to let it go now.
either way, good luck to you. have a blessed day.
Doria girl, Do not even respond to anyone who is judging you by this lame "account" of the happenings! They seem to be throwing a little too much judgement around. Seriously, it's not worth it! We who know you, know that you are one of the most sincere, honest, and down to earth people you could ever come across! Please.....do not feed the....yeah, you get it girl! Stay safe down there!
If all the things you are saying were true, Wesley, I would have posted publicly about this two weeks ago when it actually happened and every day since then.
Instead, I only told the authorities and the people closest to me for safety reasons.
I not only did the responsible thing, I did it as privately as humanly possible.
If I wanted the attention you say I'm seeking, why didn't I just post about it on every possible public forum I'm attached to back then? That would have been nearly 10 outlets I could have "exploited", by the way.
Why not mention it at my show on Saturday in front of an audience? Better yet, why not just cancel the show, close my store and sit in the safety of my home behind my computer and talk about how I feared for my life on all of those social networks?
Why not "milk it" while it was fresh?
Where has the "attention-seeking-persecution-complex-diva" in me been for nearly two weeks...or the last five months for that matter?
Why would I (or anyone) wait until I had to defend myself against it as opposed to launching an offensive attack?
So many questions...
Please, enlighten me.
i'm just glad that you could use FB and CL to get more attention from this "situation".
let's not forget that you CHOSE to be connected with this article by identifying yourself as the person the initial post was about, and then posted a link to your FB page, where you posted a link to this article, so let's not pretend this is about anything other than attention.
as for the "stalking" charges , i think i'll believe the police report that is so ridiculous that it made the blotter, rather than some long, equally ridiculous story from an attention seeking diva, thanks.
but seriously, good luck getting help with your issues. maybe you can write a song about how CL and the blotter are out to get you?
To discount a victim and their experience is unsettling. It seems this page is the one looking for PR.
"The woman said she's never met this fan, but the same fan sent her a package in the mail once before and she returned it. The woman says she's asked the fan not to contact her. The woman contacted police because she wanted the incident documented. According to the police report, the anonymous fan letter did not contain any threatening language. In fact, she chose not to tell police a single word of text from the letter and did not provide any other identifying information, such as a description of the handwriting. Cops dutifully filed a report — about a blank letter from an unknown fan."
judging from the police report, and your response to it, along with your posts here, you may want to seek professional help for your persecution issues. you may need medication if you think people are out to get you.
good luck to you, it can't be easy being you.
Somehow I am not entirely convinced the sicko is not the writer of this blog. I mean why would you twist the truth about something so serious and painful to so many people, then go on to embellish your so called 'factual' article with a comical tone and misinformation... In your titling and handling of something so sensitive Ms Keating you yourself come off as the abuser here and not a little bit sick!
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